I love to hike in the mountains of North Carolina where I live. And while I am in decent shape, sometimes the trails are steep and I start to get out of breath. My inclination is to stop and take a break but from experience I know to keep pushing on until I get to the top. There is a well-known principle that speaks to this situation, which we can also apply to our lives for greater power and purpose.
Articles in Category: How to Change Your Life
Assumptions are the most emotionally charged of the big four energy blocks. An Assumption is the belief that because something happened in the past, it will happen again. If something that happened carries a strong emotional charge, it can create a huge block that keeps us from repeating similar situations. While this sounds like a good thing, it actually keeps us living in a box that may not serve us. Here are some examples:
A lot of my work focuses on the four inner blocks that keep us stuck. My favorite Inner Block is Interpretations. Why? Because human beings LOVE to read into things, and then we believe our filtered, personal view of people and the world is the Truth.
Is your life being hijacked by your childhood belief systems?
Unless you have done extensive inner personal work, emotionally charged experiences in your formative years are likely still running your life.
If you don’t have the life you desire – are you struggling financially? Unable to maintain a long-term relationship? Hate your job? Feel like you are just treading water or going backwards? – then keep reading.
Fear is what keeps us from taking action. It seems that for most people, the known - albeit uncomfortable or dissatisfying, is often more comfortable than the unknown. Then at some point, the known becomes so uncomfortable that we force ourselves through the fear to create a new situation. But what if we could save ourselves days, months, even years of living in a dissatisfying situation by actively moving past our fears?
We are who we are because it gets us what we want/need in the world. Too many times we make unconscious (or occasionally conscious) decisions to shut down the best parts of ourselves because we are “too much” for the people around us, or because “playing the game” gets us ahead at work.
In the past we have talked about the three different types of Perfectionism. Today I want to focus on other-oriented perfectionism. And this is my question to you - Is your Perfectionism not only making your life hell, but also dragging other people down into the fire with you?
Answer these questions to find out –
Did you know that the quality of your thoughts and beliefs, plus your level of engagement will determine your degree of success for every task and in the end, how successful you are in every facet of your life?
Invariable when my clients start to work on the internal changes that will move them forward exponentially in their lives, all the old assumptions, interpretations and limiting beliefs rear their ugly heads. We like things that are routine and familiar.
According to Carol Dweck, author and Stanford University psychologist, most of us fall into one of two Mindset categories. We either have a Fixed Mindset or a Growth Mindset. And why should we care? Because people in one group have significantly greater success in life and business!
Our thoughts precede and determine our feelings. How we are feeling will determine if we act or do not act in any given situation. Whether we choose the path of action or that of inaction determines our relationships, career, finances…everything in our outer world. So while “change your mind, change your world,” may seem silly or ridiculous, if you break it down into the three steps above, it is absolutely true.
“If we stay where we are, where we're stuck,
where we're comfortable and safe, we die there."
- Anne Lamott
Your life (relationships, career, financial situation etc.) is a product of every action you have decided to take or not take in your life. The actions you have taken (or chosen not to take) were determined by your thoughts; your beliefs about yourself (I can, I can’t, I deserve, I don’t deserve etc.) and the world (I am supported, I am alone etc.)