According to Carol Dweck, author and Stanford University psychologist, most of us fall into one of two Mindset categories. We either have a Fixed Mindset or a Growth Mindset. And why should we care? Because people in one group have significantly greater success in life and business!
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Fear is what keeps us from taking action. It seems that for most people, the known - albeit uncomfortable or dissatisfying, is often more comfortable than the unknown. Then at some point, the known becomes so uncomfortable that we force ourselves through the fear to create a new situation. But what if we could save ourselves days, months, even years of living in a dissatisfying situation by actively moving past our fears?
“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” –Wayne Dyer
Time spent being miserable about a job situation (or any other situation in life), is time we steal from ourselves. It is time that we cannot get back. It is time that we could use in pursuit of enhancing our skills and strengths, exploring alternative career paths, or looking for a new job if the old one is no longer providing what we need.
We are who we are because it gets us what we want/need in the world. Too many times we make unconscious (or occasionally conscious) decisions to shut down the best parts of ourselves because we are “too much” for the people around us, or because “playing the game” gets us ahead at work.
Self-Confidence seems to keep coming up lately - on Facebook, in a recent Huffington Post Blog, in the book I picked up this morning: Mark Nepo’s The Book of Awakening. But is self-confidence the key to career success?
If I had to guess, I would say that after public speaking and death, going on a job interview would come in a close third on the things-people-most-want-to-avoid list. Tip #1 was given to me during my senior year when I attended an alumnae panel on job interviewing and because of it, I have gone into every interview in my life with little or no stress. Tip #2 is well-know and critical, but often neglected. And Tip #3 is the foundation of avoiding job hell and finding career bliss.
Our thoughts precede and determine our feelings. How we are feeling will determine if we act or do not act in any given situation. Whether we choose the path of action or that of inaction determines our relationships, career, finances…everything in our outer world. So while “change your mind, change your world,” may seem silly or ridiculous, if you break it down into the three steps above, it is absolutely true.
“If we stay where we are, where we're stuck,
where we're comfortable and safe, we die there."
- Anne Lamott
Your life (relationships, career, financial situation etc.) is a product of every action you have decided to take or not take in your life. The actions you have taken (or chosen not to take) were determined by your thoughts; your beliefs about yourself (I can, I can’t, I deserve, I don’t deserve etc.) and the world (I am supported, I am alone etc.)