According to Carol Dweck, author and Stanford University psychologist, most of us fall into one of two Mindset categories. We either have a Fixed Mindset or a Growth Mindset. And why should we care? Because people in one group have significantly greater success in life and business!
“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” –Wayne Dyer
Time spent being miserable about a job situation (or any other situation in life), is time we steal from ourselves. It is time that we cannot get back. It is time that we could use in pursuit of enhancing our skills and strengths, exploring alternative career paths, or looking for a new job if the old one is no longer providing what we need.
“If we stay where we are, where we're stuck,
where we're comfortable and safe, we die there."
- Anne Lamott
Your life (relationships, career, financial situation etc.) is a product of every action you have decided to take or not take in your life. The actions you have taken (or chosen not to take) were determined by your thoughts; your beliefs about yourself (I can, I can’t, I deserve, I don’t deserve etc.) and the world (I am supported, I am alone etc.)
Fear is what keeps us from taking action. It seems that for most people, the known - albeit uncomfortable or dissatisfying, is often more comfortable than the unknown. Then at some point, the known becomes so uncomfortable that we force ourselves through the fear to create a new situation. But what if we could save ourselves days, months, even years of living in a dissatisfying situation by actively moving past our fears?
We are who we are because it gets us what we want/need in the world. Too many times we make unconscious (or occasionally conscious) decisions to shut down the best parts of ourselves because we are “too much” for the people around us, or because “playing the game” gets us ahead at work.